“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’”
Fear is something many of us do not notice in our lives. But it is there. We fear failure, we fear success; we fear the unknown, we fear the constants; we fear people, we fear loneliness. Fear becomes a roadblock that is invisible. In life, we should approach each and every decision that we make with the question, “what type of fear must we confront? How is fear forcing the paths I take? If I did not fear, how would that change the outcomes?”
With fear directing our decisions, we are less productive, less honest with ourselves about our capabilities, and often missing the mark of our next purpose in life. If we can identify the fear that is the hurdle, we often find that our fear is baseless. As I have gotten older, I am better able to look at my life by first unraveling the fear factor. Our last move was to my hometown. The move was big, the future a frightening unknown. The uncertainty was greater for my husband who faithfully followed me and helped with the move. Much has happened in the transition, some good and some bad. The purpose of the move was to be near my aging and ailing parents. I have truly been grateful to be near them in these later years. Lo and behold! My husband’s parents came to live here, too! That is definitely one of the great things, a complete surprise, fear could not even see that as a possibility.
Fear does not have all the facts straight. It is a constraint that shuts down the unexpected and the wonderful. Although much of the transition has been hard, the truth is we did the best thing. We now help our parents, we celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays with them. We are being gifted every day with this time spent with family. As we push through our life and its new purpose, we are blessed daily. We learn new things about ourselves, our parents, and what we are able to accomplish. It remains hard; but that is life. When we face our fears, we can seize life better.